Your significant others family
This topic came to me from a close friend. Is it a big deal if you get along with your significant other's family? In the past, if I felt like a young lady was trying to make me perform "out of my box" for her family, I would tell her what she could do with herself. But as I matured, I realize it is about respect. Respect for her, myself and her family.
You may not get along or even like your significant other's family and they might dislike you even more. I think if you can extend the olive branch, do so (especially if you really want to be with your person). But respect yourself while doing so. Be yourself. But ultimately, I don't believe you have to like your significant other's family and they don't have to like you. But I do think a mutual respect for one another must exist.
You may not get along or even like your significant other's family and they might dislike you even more. I think if you can extend the olive branch, do so (especially if you really want to be with your person). But respect yourself while doing so. Be yourself. But ultimately, I don't believe you have to like your significant other's family and they don't have to like you. But I do think a mutual respect for one another must exist.
posted by T.G. Gray at 3:31 PM
4 Comments:
This is a topic that I am sure a lot of people have to deal with when things start to get serious with your significant other. I somewhat agree that you don’t have to get along with your in-laws but it sure makes things a lot easier in the future. If I had to pick I would rather get in good with the mother and just have mutual respect between the father and you. We as men are bound to do something stupid sooner or later and it always is good to have mom on your side when sh$t hits the fan. If mom does not like you there is less of a chance of a "do-over". In addition if you don’t like your in-laws, chances are that your girl or guy will eventually start to act just like them in the future. Its genetic he/she can’t help. This can be a good tool to gauge how your mate will be in the future before you take the relationship to another level.
Anonymous,
I agree you should do everything possible to try to extend the olive branch, but sometimes it is not happening. Some parents don't believe that another man or woman is good enough for their offspring. In those cases if your person is understanding and you intend to continue in the relationship, mutual respect is the only thing that will make the relationship with the significant other's parents managable.
One time for Travis and his new blog....
I like to remind the mother that her precious daughter could of picked a thug that’s only been jailed twice and they usually come around after that. They realize black professional brothas are about as scarce as a USF football title...
Diplomat,
My buddy is a good guy. And good people don't come around often(As often as FSU football having scandal free offseasons). And you are right, the parents don't realize that the guy (or gal) chosen by their child could have always been worse. But on the other end the parents could be worse also.
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